My wife and children are always saying,
“You never told me that!” They have claimed, through the years,
not to have known that I knew four murderers, or that I was friends
with a Secret Service agent, before I mentioned these things in
public. The number of things they don't know about me is simply
staggering, especially when you consider that my wife has known me
since I was 13 years old. In spite of talking too much, I apparently
don't say anything. This bugs them all a lot because, for some
reason, they think that they should know what has happened to me
during my life before I start talking about it from the pulpit.
I thought that this was an unusual
state of affairs until I thought about my mother's parents. How much
did I really know about them? I assumed it must be a lot, since I
spent time on their farm growing up. Then I realized that I didn't
know how they met, where they lived before the farm, or how they
lived. My time on their farm had produced many memories that included
them, but weren't really about them. I was self-centered as a child,
in the way that all children believe that the world exists for them.
I was confident that the world would never change, because I could
not imagine it being any other way. It never occurred to me that
parents and grandparents were really people in the way that I was,
because they were godlike creatures. They had no beginning that I
could remember, and I could imagine no ending for them. They didn't
come from anywhere - they simply were. A teenaged Papaw or a child
Grandmaw were thoughts that the child never imagined thinkable. At
any rate, I never learned who they were before they were gone.
In the last year of her life, my
Grandmaw Luke began writing down some of her memories; but she became
too ill to continue. She finished four pages of her memories. Four
pages. That is all that I have left that is not corrupted by the
years since her death. It occurs to me that I want my children and
grandchildren to know my stories as I have lived them. There are a
few things that I want to set the record straight about. To wit:
- I didn't burn the campground down.
- Nothing happened to my Grandmother Parker's 70th birthday cake. Nothing at all.
- My uncle's head didn't even need stitches.
- I did break that girl's finger, though.
This won't be Tolstoy's “Childhood”;
but I'll tell my stories in more or less chronological order, and
I'll be more or less honest.
Blessings!
Jack
Dad
Grandpaw
JP

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